Do you have a self story? You know, a story you tell yourself and others on a regular basis. A story that’s probably not true, but because you’ve told this story so many times you don’t recognize it as a fairy tale. That self story.
Self stories can be empowering or destructive. We get to choose which ones we tell or which ones we ignore. These stories can be reinforced by the media we consume or experiences we’ve had in life.
In any case, they’re all stories we tell ourselves on a regular basis. But are they true?
Years ago I read about a man who never got sick. His theory was that he told himself he didn’t get sick and that was that. He didn’t get sick. On the flip side, I know people who say “I get sick all the time” and sure enough they get sick all the time. Whatever germ is around is theirs to share.
I know it sounds weird right? Well, it didn’t hurt to try, so I tried it with something that seemed more controllable, my timeliness.
Instead of being controlled by and being late for appointments, I told myself “I’m always on time” and ditched the watch. What happened, I’m usually on time.
Could it be that our self stories are alterable? Wouldn’t that be awesome!
Stories we tell ourselves
There are a ton of stories we can tell ourselves, here are a few I hear A LOT:
- I’m always late
- I’m bad at math
- I’m a terrible cook
- I’m not very athletic
- I can’t lose weight
- I can’t gain weight
- No one wants to hear from me
- I’m not very interesting
In my experience, most of these are stories we tell ourselves so we don’t have to try hard to change them. Instead of owning our power, we give it away.
What if, instead we changed our self story to more empowering phrases like:
- I’m always on time
- I’m pretty good at math
- I cook pretty well
- I’m athletic
- I’m living a healthy lifestyle
- I’m working to build muscle
- My voice is important
- My story is worth sharing
What if? Try it and see how it fits. You may be pleasantly surprised.