What’s your self story

Sedruola Maruska | Leisure Life Coach

Do you have a self story? You know, a story you tell yourself and others on a regular basis. A story that’s probably not true, but because you’ve told this story so many times you don’t recognize it as a fairy tale. That self story.

Self stories can be empowering or destructive. We get to choose which ones we tell or which ones we ignore. These stories can be reinforced by the media we consume or experiences we’ve had in life.

In any case, they’re all stories we tell ourselves on a regular basis. But are they true?

Years ago I read about a man who never got sick. His theory was that he told himself he didn’t get sick and that was that. He didn’t get sick. On the flip side, I know people who say “I get sick all the time” and sure enough they get sick all the time. Whatever germ is around is theirs to share.

I know it sounds weird right? Well, it didn’t hurt to try, so I tried it with something that seemed more controllable, my timeliness.

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Instead of being controlled by and being late for appointments, I told myself “I’m always on time” and ditched the watch. What happened, I’m usually on time.

Could it be that our self stories are alterable? Wouldn’t that be awesome!

Stories we tell ourselves

There are a ton of stories we can tell ourselves, here are a few I hear A LOT:

  • I’m always late
  • I’m bad at math
  • I’m a terrible cook
  • I’m not very athletic
  • I can’t lose weight
  • I can’t gain weight
  • No one wants to hear from me
  • I’m not very interesting

In my experience, most of these are stories we tell ourselves so we don’t have to try hard to change them. Instead of owning our power, we give it away.

What if, instead we changed our self story to more empowering phrases like:

  • I’m always on time
  • I’m pretty good at math
  • I cook pretty well
  • I’m athletic
  • I’m living a healthy lifestyle
  • I’m working to build muscle
  • My voice is important
  • My story is worth sharing

What if? Try it and see how it fits. You may be pleasantly surprised.


What are you capable of?

Sedruola Maruska | Leisure Life Coach

You don’t know what you’re capable of.

My friend Shelly was diagnosed with cancer in the summer of 2017. I thought to myself “She’s so strong, I don’t know what I’d do.” We lost Shelly in the Fall of 2017.

Then in December of 2017 I got my chance to find out what I’d do when I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

Shelly inspired me not only to keep smiling and keep loving, but to do it to the best of my ability. So that’s what I’ve done.

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Every day I’ve smiled, loved, practiced immeasurable gratitude and opened up to help others who’ve been diagnosed.

I didn’t realize I was capable of taking on cancer until it came for me.

What I did know was how to keep my head up, my loved ones close, and my faith strong.

You may not know what you’re capable of in light of tough situations, but if you know how to embrace yourself and your blessings, you’re equip for battle.


How well do you know yourself?

Sedruola Maruska | Leisure Life Coach

One of my least favorite questions/statements/conversation starters of all time is ‘Tell me about yourself.”

It’s not really a question and it’s not a statement. Although it’s meant to start a conversation, I don’t ever feel excited to start there, you?

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But then I think to myself, how often do we think about who we are? The quick thing is to talk about the roles we play in our lives “I’m a married mother of two…” or our jobs “I’m a Life Coach focused on helping women find leisure and productivity in their lives…” But are those things who we are?

One of the very first questions I ask anyone that works with me is who are you? The answer is usually “what?” , but then I ask again “if I stripped every label from you, who would you be?”

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I ask because knowing who we are, leads us to truly knowing what we want, which leads to prioritizing in our lives, which leads to more happiness, which leads to better productivity, which leads to true success.

If you don’t know yourself, or if you’re not learning about yourself, how can you know what will truly work for your life?

So I’m asking you, how well do you know yourself? Who would you be if all the external labels were removed (mom, sister, daughter, wife, partner etc.) and you needed to express your soul. . . would you know yourself?

Maybe it’s time to get personally intimate with yourself.