Morning Routine, Calm Day

Sedruola Maruska | Personal Development Coach

About two years ago I grabbed a small booklet by Lewis Howes called “The Millionaire Morning.” I grabbed it because it was half the cost of a regular book and I was developing some interest in the power of mornings.

For a long time I considered myself a night owl. I thought my best work, and my most focused time was in the evening. Then I had a forced stop, reset and assess situation. What I found was, my best time was the morning. So, my interest in the booklet.

Mornings can be hectic and rushed especially especially if you’re responsible for getting others, like kids or aging parents ready for the day and out the door on time. Because of that, you may start your day feeling frazzled, cranky, and overwhelmed which isn’t good for anyone. I know!

You expire on. . .

Which is why a morning ritual is so important. Imagine if you woke, went through a ritual, then got into your day, the difference it would make. If you’re calmer, more grounded and relaxed, you’ll approach your day differently and help those involved in your morning feel more relaxed too.

A simple morning ritual that you perform each day will change your world. Let me explain what I mean and how a good morning routine can set the tone of your day.

What’s a Morning Routine?

A morning routine is a series of actions you take every morning to help set the tone for your day.

It’s self-care that lets you begin each day feeling energized, relaxed, and purposeful. Morning routines are as personal and unique as each of us. They usually involve calming or reviving actions like writing in a journal, meditating, exercising, or creating to-do lists.

Whatever your morning routine is, make sure it helps you feel prepared for – and in charge of – your day.

Your day doesn't have to be the hurry scurry mess it is right now. Here are suggestions for starting a morning routine to change your day, week and life!

Benefits of a Morning Routine

Once I started a morning routine I gained a lot of great things from my new practice. Having a morning routine allowed me to positively set the tone for my entire day. So can you.


You’ll gain a sense of purpose and empowerment because you’re making proactive decisions about how to get things started and the activities you choose can help with a more positive mindset.

Taking time for yourself on a regular basis, especially at the beginning of the day, will also help improve your outlook and your coping skills. The sense of calm and control you get through exercising your morning routine will carry over into your day, keeping your mood high as you run into obstacles and in dealing with others. If you add things like a healthy breakfast and exercise to your new routine, you’ll face the day more energized and ready to go.

Morning Routine Suggestions

We’re all different, which means we have things that are important to us as individuals. Your morning routine needs to consist of activities you choose that’ll benefit you the most. Consider activities that nourish your soul and are meaningful to you.

Here are some suggestions to help get you thinking:

  • Journaling or morning pages is writing about your thoughts and feelings and can be healing
  • Exercise or go for a leisurely stroll. How hard you workout doesn’t matter. It’s moving your body that creates energy. Taking your movement outside can add calm and perspective
  • Start the night before, by writing down a tentative to-do list and schedule for the next day. This helps release tension of uncertainty by giving you a framework for the coming day

You can take these suggestions and add a few of your own, or start from scratch. The important things is to add whatever resonates with your spirit. Plan for about a half hour, more or less depending on your lifestyle.

The key to reaping morning routine benefits is to make it a regular event. Staying consistent and adjusting it as you go so it’s always what you need. Start getting your morning routine down, and you’ll see your days, weeks and months transform for the better.

You cannot succeed if you cannot fail

Sedruola Maruska | Personal Development Coach

“What would you do if you knew you could not fail?”

It’s an old question asked a lot because of where it allows our minds to go. So, I asked it in my Facebook group this week and it stirred conversation.

Fear of failure keeps us from doing what we want to do because we’re afraid of things like:

  • what will “they” think?
  • how will I survive?
  • it’s too risky
  • it’s too controversial
  • I need to go back to school
  • I need the right, better, more tools/equipment
  • I’m not sure I’m the right person
  • what if I look ridiculous
  • I don’t have enough time
  • they’re not ready

And on, and on, and on. . . .

Let’s remove the stress from your success

We’re afraid of failure, but failure is the learning curve. It’s what gives us the opportunity to build experience so we know when we’ve succeeded. There’s not one person we look at as “successful” that hasn’t failed many times in order to reach that success.

A new question

So, as I considered the question I thought up a new one:

“What would you do if you knew you’d fail often, but in the end succeed?”

What if, instead of allowing the fear of failure drive us, we opened ourselves up to fail so we could succeed beyond our imagination? What if we decided:

  • who cares what they think
  • I’ll be fine
  • the risk is worth the reward
  • controversy breeds innovation
  • I know everything I need to know
  • I’ll start right now with what I have
  • I’m the exact right person for this
  • who cares how I look
  • I’ll find the time or make time
  • they better get ready

You are a badass

Fear of success

What if in the end the questions aren’t truly about the fear of all things listed, but about the success itself?

Could it be that we’re okay with the failure, but it’s the thought of actually getting to our big success that scares us? Why? Because success brings change and change is scary. It’s unknown, it’s the “X” factor.

Seems like all our excuses and fears are only to keep from walking into the black hole of “how will this all turn out?” Well, it will turn out like it will turn out. If we always had the information beforehand, what fun would life be?

You cannot succeed if you cannot fail | Sedruola Maruska

It’s the unknown that makes the journey fun! You get up everyday not knowing exactly what’s going to happen that day. You may have things planned, but there’s always “something”. That doesn’t keep you from getting out of bed and still tackling your day does it?

“What would you do if you knew you’d fail often, but in the end succeed?”

Let’s embrace the “X” factor, move forward with a spirit of power and fail often on our way to success!

You expire on…

Sedruola Maruska | Personal Development Coach

Every time we go food shopping we look at the “you expire on” date for our own safety, right? We find those dates helpful because they let us know the potential harm date of the food item.

About a year before my Dad retired his colleague retired. This man had plans to travel and spend time with family. But, about a month (I believe) after retiring, he had a heart attack and died.

I don’t know much more about him, but I do wonder: Did he take time to enjoy the journey?; If he knew he’d expire so soon after retirement, would he have enjoyed the journey more?

What if you knew the exact date you would, well, “you expire on….” What would you do differently? Why?

We all have expiration dates

We take this journey called life lightly. We live every day as if we’ll be here forever. Putting things off until “tomorrow”. Failing to do things we want to do now. Hoping tomorrow will be better. . . etc.

But we all have a “you expire on….” date. So, if you knew that date, what would you do differently? Why? Not why would you do it differently, but why aren’t you doing it now?

Why aren’t you:

  • planning that trip to your dream locale?
  • getting that degree?
  • opening up that practice?

I’m not immune. At 50 I’m finally waking up to the fact that I haven’t done many of the things I want to do. I could blame it on life itself. You know, bills, kids, jobs, taxes etc. But at the end of the day, I only have myself to blame.

A Personal Eulogy to Live By

We know we’re going to expire, so why not maximize the days we have now? Find or create our dream careers. Travel. Rest. Be happy. Make a difference.

If we knew the “you expire on…” dates we had I think we’d all live differently. We’d value our time more. We’d spend our time more wisely. We might even have a greater impact in the world.

Maybe there’s something to living as if today were your last day. If you did, what would you let go? What would you focus on? What would you fight to have, give or do?

Just because you don’t know your expiration date doesn’t mean you don’t have one. You do. You expire on. . . what will you do before that date?