No watch?

Sedruola Maruska | Personal Development Coach

In 1999 I stopped wearing a watch.

There was no pomp and circumstance, I just decided, one day, to stop.

Before that, I loved watches. I had a ring watch, and several wristwatches that I wore faithfully. Growing up, it was the one piece of acceptable “jewelry” I could wear to church.

But by 1999 I’d rebelled and was wearing earrings, bracelets, necklaces along with my watch. But in 1999 the watch had to go.

Why? Because one day in 1999 I was leaving my New York apartment to get to the train station to go to work. I left at the same time everyday. There was a window of opportunity that I never missed.

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On this particular day, as I left my apartment and started walking to the train station, I noticed something.

I wasn’t late, I was hardly ever late, but in the two minute walk to the train station I’d looked at my watch 5 times!

That’s when I started to take notice of the thing that caused me to get rid of my watch in 1999.

I noticed my anxiety as it related to time.

Growing up I wasn’t late. Id’ grown up knowing that being on time was respectful and when it was my responsibility to be somewhere, I was there early or right on time, hardly ever late.

But every time I looked at my watch (every 30 seconds or so) I was telling myself, I was late. Knowing I wasn’t, but buying into the idea that maybe I was late.

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It’s a bit odd when you think about it.

We wear watches for time, for decoration or to stay on task. Yet, for some of us, it’s a point of anxiety.

So, one day, in 1999 I decided to stop wearing watches to see what would happen. Would my day get thrown off? Would I start being late? What if I wasn’t able to look at my watch every 30 seconds, what would happen?

You know what happened? Less stress.

Maybe, that timepiece is causing more stress than necessary because it’s an accessible reminder of our perceived slackness.

The imagined ticking clock we have in our heads when it comes to having babies, professional success, getting married or whatever we feel behind on could be tied to our timepieces.

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There’s a time to watch the clock, and there’s a time to forget there’s a clock.

It’s 2019. It’s been 20 years since I’ve owned a watch. In that time I got married (late), I had two babies (late) and my career has changed again (late). But life is grand! And if being late feels right. . . .

Maybe, being late isn’t always a bad thing. Maybe, removing the anxiety of the elusive ticking clock could be good for you too.


Who else wants to stop taking showers?

Who else wants to stop taking showers? | Sedruola Maruska

I used to take a wonderfully long shower every day. Even when we moved to California and my skin started to tear because it was so dry. I bought better lotions and kept showering every day. I never imagined I could stop taking showers back then.

[wp_ad_camp_5]Then I had a baby.

You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? The baby’s small, so you shower only when someone else is around to make sure they’ll be fine. Or when they begin to walk, you want to be sure they don’t kill themselves, while you’re jumping into a 5 minute “shower” so you won’t smell bad at the end of the day.

Less Showering

I got used to less showering and realized my skin was happier. So, I’ve kept a schedule of showering every other day or two (except if I’ve had too many hot flashes, worked out, or it’s summer). It really depends on how yucky I feel or smell.

Who else wants to stop taking showers? | Sedruola Maruska

Anyway, after chemo and surgery, when things started to get back to normal, and I had less down time for self-care, I started to wonder how I could keep a self-care schedule that worked with increased activity.

As I looked around my bathroom I noticed pampering products that were languishing. Languishing because my self-care was always on the back burner. After all there was never enough time. So one day I decided to take more than ten minutes in the shower.

The scrubs and oils finally started looking used. Then, in December, I received the dry brushing brushes that were on my wish list. To say they changed my life would be an understatement, they have transformed the way I shower!

I still don’t take showers everyday (don’t judge me) even though my kids are old enough to leave alone. But when I do take a shower, it becomes a full blown spa experience that I’d like to share with you.

Shower Spa Recipe

Let’s start with the ingredients:

  • Dry Brushing Brushes (for face & body)
  • Shower Gloves
  • Shower Gel
  • Sugar Scrub
  • Coconut Oil (or any natural oil)
  • Shower Process

    Step 1: Use your dry brushing brushes to brush your whole body. My brushes came with a diagram, but if you don’t have one, just be sure to brush toward your heart. Starting from the soles of your feet all the way up to your face. Do at least 10 – 15 brush strokes on each area to make sure you’ve loosened up the dead skin.

    Step 2: Get in the shower and rinse right before using your shower gloves and shower gel to remove any last bits of dead skin left behind from the brushing. Rinse.

    Step 3: Use a gentle sugar scrub on your skin (hopefully one that uses a natural oil) and rub all over your body.

    Step 4: Pat dry then rub the coconut (or your natural oil of choice) all over your body.

    The Result

    After my first spa shower my skin was incredibly soft, smooth and smelled so lovely! I suddenly didn’t feel weird not taking a shower every day because it was now a getaway. A respite from everyday and a great way to:

    • [wp_ad_camp_5]stimulate lymph drainage which builds your immunity
    • unclog your pores
    • clear blemishes faster

    So, not only am I enjoying my shower more, I’m also helping my body stay healthy! Talk about a winning situation. Here’s a quick DIY Sugar Scrub my daughter and I made up a few months back, hope it works for you!

    One last note. . . enjoy the process in anything, that’s where the real fun is! Whether it’s a shower or planning a huge event. . . the fun is in the details (not the devil) enjoy it all.

    What’s your favorite thing to do in the shower? Whatever it is, I’m here for it so do tell.

Mother Daughter DIY Frankincense Sugar Scrub

Mother Daughter DIY Sugar Scrub | Sedruola Maruska

It was a collaborative project from the beginning. She measured, I mixed and we decided on color and texture. This frankincense sugar scrub comes to you from our hearts.

My daughter just turned seven. She’s pretty smart for her age, but there isn’t much I can involve her in when it comes to my blog. Let me rephrase that, there isn’t much I thought I could involve her in when it comes to my blogging. I’m wrong.

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Mother Daughter DIY Sugar Scrub | Sedruola Maruska

Ever since my cancer diagnosis I’ve taken a more relaxed approach to life. There are important things that need to be done (like filing taxes on time) but most things aren’t that deep. Most of the things we stress, worry and make ourselves sick about aren’t that deep.

This blog is important to me. But I’ve realized it’s not necessary to make myself crazy trying to make it “perfect”. It will evolve over time as long as I’m focused and consistent. That’s why when it was time to create this sugar scrub to share with you, and my daughter wanted to help, I said yes!

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The Recipe

Throughout the process of making this sugar scrub my daughter and I chatted. We talked about boys, pampering, feeling good and what’s good for you. It was a work of love that we’d like to share with you. What you’ll need:

  • 1 Cup of sugar
  • 14 oz. Organic olive oil (refined, it’s smoother)
  • 20 drops Frankincense essential oil
  • 2 drops blue food coloring (optional)
  • 1 drop green food coloring (optional)

Other items you’ll need

  • 1 airtight glass jar
  • hand mixer
  • mixing bowl
  • spoon

The Process


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This sugar scrub is a lovely compliment to the Frankincense & Sandlewood Bath Soak we made a few weeks ago. The aromas are subtle, but the benefits are huge.

Once you gather all your tools and ingredients you’re ready! First, using a large spoon first, mix the sugar with the coconut oil. Do not melt the oil (I know it sounds crazy but trust me) Do your best to slowly mix the sugar and coconut oil until the mixture is soft enough that you can use the mixer.

Before using the mixer add the frankincense oil and the food coloring. Once you have everything in the bowl, start using the hand mixer and mix for about 10 minutes or until the mixture is fluffy.

Once you have the right consistency, transfer the mixture to your airtight jar and it’s ready to go.

Special Notes

There is method to my madness so I’ll explain it here.

Feel free to make the mixture any color you wish. We didn’t use a lot of color because I didn’t really want color and my daughter did. It’s totally up to you.

[wp_ad_camp_4]I didn’t melt the coconut oil because keeping hard allows for the final mixture to be fluffy. If you store it in a warm place it will stay fluffy and easy to use. If it gets cold where you store it, it will harden, but keeping it warm for a short time will allow it to fluff up again.

The best thing about this mixture is the amount of coconut oil we used. We used extra coconut oil because we wanted a mixture that would feel super soft once you’re done. This sugar scrub gives a generous amount of oil in the shower once your rub it on. Use it last then pat dry and allow the coconut oil to absorb into your skin. It’s a great emollient and it even has a slight bit of SPF ;).

The combination of sugar and coconut oil is perfect for summer showers!

We hope you enjoy making this sugar scrub with someone you love or alone as a meditative exercise. It’s great for dry skin (take it from someone who’s experienced the dryness of chemo), plus it’s easy & fun to make. We’re hoping you’ll end up making it for friends and family as gifts.

Let us know what you loved, liked or didn’t care for with this recipe. We’re happy for the feedback as we dream up more lovely MYO (make your own)concoctions to share with you.