What’s your self story

Sedruola Maruska | Leisure Life Coach

Do you have a self story? You know, a story you tell yourself and others on a regular basis. A story that’s probably not true, but because you’ve told this story so many times you don’t recognize it as a fairy tale. That self story.

Self stories can be empowering or destructive. We get to choose which ones we tell or which ones we ignore. These stories can be reinforced by the media we consume or experiences we’ve had in life.

In any case, they’re all stories we tell ourselves on a regular basis. But are they true?

Years ago I read about a man who never got sick. His theory was that he told himself he didn’t get sick and that was that. He didn’t get sick. On the flip side, I know people who say “I get sick all the time” and sure enough they get sick all the time. Whatever germ is around is theirs to share.

I know it sounds weird right? Well, it didn’t hurt to try, so I tried it with something that seemed more controllable, my timeliness.

No watch?

Instead of being controlled by and being late for appointments, I told myself “I’m always on time” and ditched the watch. What happened, I’m usually on time.

Could it be that our self stories are alterable? Wouldn’t that be awesome!

Stories we tell ourselves

There are a ton of stories we can tell ourselves, here are a few I hear A LOT:

  • I’m always late
  • I’m bad at math
  • I’m a terrible cook
  • I’m not very athletic
  • I can’t lose weight
  • I can’t gain weight
  • No one wants to hear from me
  • I’m not very interesting

In my experience, most of these are stories we tell ourselves so we don’t have to try hard to change them. Instead of owning our power, we give it away.

What if, instead we changed our self story to more empowering phrases like:

  • I’m always on time
  • I’m pretty good at math
  • I cook pretty well
  • I’m athletic
  • I’m living a healthy lifestyle
  • I’m working to build muscle
  • My voice is important
  • My story is worth sharing

What if? Try it and see how it fits. You may be pleasantly surprised.


Benefits and Roundup for Self Massage

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Do you self massage? When you roll your head or rub your shoulders that’s exactly what you’re doing.

I used to dream about being able to go get a massage once a month. It seemed so impossible to me because it was such an expense. Then cancer.

Since being out of active cancer treatments I’ve gone to get a massage every six weeks. Not only because it feels amazing, or that it’s been my dream, but because of the benefits.

Did you know that any massage is a great way to:

  • Relieve stress
  • Boost immunity
  • Drain the lymph system
  • Increase blood flow to your skin
  • Slow the aging process
  • Relive muscle tension
  • Improve sleep

And so much more?

Well, it is! And not only that, it’s a great way to slow down (which you know I’m a huge advocate of doing) and do something good for yourself.

Mother Daughter DIY Frankincense Sugar Scrub

I’ve put together this list of articles to help you get on the road to a healthier self. Each article talks about different ways to self massage and the benefits.

Why not start a new habit in the coming weeks that’ll help keep you relaxed and healthy!

Self Massage Articles to Get Started

The weekend is a great time to practice what you’ve learned so you can start the week off strong. But anytime is a good time to start a great habit.

Here’s to more relaxation, less stress and better sleep!


Yesterday I took an afternoon nap

Sedruola Maruska | Leisure Life Coach

When was the last time you took an afternoon nap?

A nap while the washer’s running with clothes strewn all over the floor waiting their turn.

A nap while a laundry basket is piled so high with laundry to be folded it needs to lean against the dresser.

A nap when dinner needs prepping, bathrooms need cleaning, emails need sending, bills need paying and so on and so forth.

My worst mother daughter conversation to date

Well, yesterday I took an afternoon nap BECAUSE. . . laundry needed doing and folding. Dinner needed prepping. Bathrooms needed cleaning. Bills needed paying and I needed to recharge to go out driving.

Two years ago that nap wouldn’t have happened, but not yesterday, or today or tomorrow. . . .

My nap lasted about an hour. Then I got up, switched out the laundry, folded half the clothes that needed folding, got ready and left for work all in 45 minutes.

We think we don’t have time when really we’re tired . . . so we can’t focus on doing what we can in the time we have.

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Take an afternoon nap in the coming week. See how much better you feel and how much more you get done.

It’s simple.