What if we loved ourselves more?

What if we loved ourselves more? | Sedruola Maruska

What if we devoted this year to loving ourselves more?

That’s the question I posted on my Instagram to kick off 2019. . . what if? What do you think would happen?

What if we:

  • said “I love you” when we looked at ourselves in the mirror
  • had encouraging self-talk going on in our minds
  • didn’t worry about what others think, just how we feel
  • took time out each day to do something special for ourselves
  • treated ourselves like we want to be treated by others
  • complimented ourselves on our beautiful bodies
  • loved our hair
  • loved our skin
  • embraced our scars
  • fed ourselves nourishing foods
  • danced
  • laughed
  • cried
  • Simply allowed ourselves to be

The Proposition

Let’s make it our mission this year to love ourselves more. I’m not always good at being good to myself. Loving myself. But this year I’m not only going to help myself, I want to help you too.

From this blog, my Instagram, Facebook & YouTube accounts my mission is to become more of what we want in 2019.

So think about it. . . what if we devoted this year to loving ourselves more. . . what do you come up with as the result?

Happy 2019, let’s make it our best year ever!

You Are A Badass – A Badass Book Reveiw

“If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.”

It was December 17, 2017. We’d landed a day earlier in a magical place and I was ready to get my vacation on!

Four days earlier I’d gotten the news that I had breast cancer. Three days earlier I’d gone in for a CT Scan, Bi-lateral MRI and a bone scan. Two days earlier I’d learned that all my scans were clear. On December 16 we got on a plane with great friends and landed in Turks & Caico. I was primed to forget the past few days and focus on loving life.

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The Book

I’d picked up You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life at the Massachusetts Conference for Women because I loved the title and the bright yellow cover grabbed my attention. Little did I know what kind of ride I’d just decided to take.

The “You Are A Badass” book is written by Jen Sincero who is, among a ton of other things, a success coach. It’s a New York Times Bestseller so I’m sure you’ve seen it displayed at your local bookstore. I bought the paperback version which was easy to pack and enjoy on vacation. You probably have an electronic reader so you can pick up an electronic copy here, however, I still love the feel of real books.

When I opened the book I noticed it was separated into five sections each with their own overall theme. Having sections makes is easy for you to choose where you’d like to start if you don’t want to read the full book. Personally, I’d encourage you to go through the whole thing the first time, then pick and choose your second, third or fourth time around.

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The Voice

Jen speaks in a very down to earth conversational tone throughout the book. I think it’s one of the things I enjoyed most. She shares a ton of content in a way that makes you feel she’s your wiser older sister who really wants you to succeed.

I’ve started and put down a number of books that seemed to be talking at me and not to me. This book, You Are a Badass, was not one of them. I flew through this book as if my life depended on it (which after a cancer diagnosis, I felt it did). It was almost like having her across from me at the kitchen table, with our wine glasses between us, hashing out why I need to embrace all that is me.




The Message

Just as the title implies, the message of the book is that You Are A Badass but until you embrace that fully, you’ll keep living a life designed for you not by you. She wants you to learn to love yourself fully. That way, when life happens, you’re ready to meet it head on and decide how you want events or situations to unfold.

The book is full of butt kicking advice because it’s what we, as readers, need. If we didn’t she wouldn’t have had to write this book. However, the butt kicking is done with compassion and understanding. That’s not always easy to do, but she does a beautiful job.

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My Conclusion

If you haven’t already, pick up a copy of You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life and enjoy the ride read. Depending on where you are on your personal journey the content will bring out some emotions. Don’t be afraid to feel what you feel because it’s all a process.

My second read-through is happening with highlighter in hand (the reason I love books) so I can now work on internalizing the information and change my life. Even those of us who love and are infinitely grateful for the lives we have can use some adjusting and tweaking every now and then.

Your Turn

Have your read the book? What prompted you to read it? What was your assessment of the content. Please leave a message in the comments. I’d love to hear your perspective, especially if it’s different than mine on what you thought about this book. Can’t wait to hear your thoughts.



 

There is no giving without receiving, how to keep the flow going

There is No Giving Without Receiving How to Keep the Flow Going | Sedruola Maruska

I briefly mentioned in my last post how 2018 is my year of kindness. One of the biggest lessons I learned early this year, is there is no giving without receiving.

In December of 2017 as I was coming to the end of the “year of me” it dawned on me that I liked having a “themed” year. So as I thought about what 2018 was going to mean I tapped into the lessons I learned in 2017. The overwhelming feeling came that I wanted it to be about kindness. The new year was going to be about giving, as much as possible, to those I come into contact with. I didn’t want to limit it to my immediate circle, but expand it to anyone I come into contact with that needs a bit of kindness.

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Then, on December 13, 2017 I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

I can’t explain what happens when you get a diagnosis of cancer. I’m sure it’s different for everyone but this is what it was for me. Everything slowed. My doctor was speaking, I was listening, but my brain was stuck on “the biopsy showed that you have Invasive Lobular Carcinoma, breast cancer.” My husband asked questions and at some point I began to cry because, cancer. Then clarity came, not instantly, it took a few days, but it came.

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Help Rolled In

When we began to tell people about my diagnosis the offers to help rolled in. People are amazing and this only helped me to see it even more. Offers for food, babysitting, rides etc. Whatever could make our lives easier while fighting cancer, someone was there to help. What an amazing thing to be poised to give then have the floodgates open to push you to receive as well.

I was given my biggest opportunity to give by being given my biggest opportunity to receive. There is no real giving without also receiving. I know many people who want to give to others and yet, when the offer comes their way they are too proud, for whatever reason, to receive graciously. Receiving doesn’t diminish who you are it allows the kindness to flow. The action in both giving and receiving is an open hand, when one hand closes the flow is lost.

So here I was being handed the largest opportunity to receive just when I was planning to make it my biggest giving year ever! I was being taught that in order to truly give, we must also graciously receive. The feelings we get when giving or receiving are beneficial to our health!

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A Few Tips

Having shared that, let me share a few tips that may help in both giving and receiving of kindness from the world:

  1. Giving and receiving do not have to be proportional. You do not have to give in the exact proportion that someone has given to you. It’s nice to do, but not necessary. Giving as you can, just as someone gave as they could is still proportional.
  2. Giving doesn’t have to be to the person who has given to you. Paying it forward is the best way to keep the flow going. It’s also the best way NOT to feel as though you owe someone because they’ve done something nice for you, or to make them feel that they owe you when you do something nice for them. It’s not tit for tat, it’s letting kindness flow
  3. Give what you can. Small acts of kindness are still giving. Never feel that your giving has to be a grand gesture for all to see. Simple small gestures can go a long way to keeping the flow of kindness going. A smile, a compliment, a helping hand are all glorious acts of giving that could be saving someone’s life. Wherever you are and feel compelled to give, that’s your mission for the day.
  4. Give without looking to receive. Giving and receiving flow together, but don’t give with the intention of receiving. Just give. The flow of life, of the Universe is to always balance things out. So give happily and freely enjoying the feeling you get while doing it then move on never expecting anything in return. Honestly, that’s the kind of giving that will really make you feel the best!

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What is all means

It meant to me was give and receive freely. What it means to you may be different. But what I hope we can all get from this is that as we look around we can see the need for loving kindness. If we allow ourselves to be open to the abundance the Universe offers and freely let it flow through us by giving we are letting kindness flow. What can be better than that?

I’m thankful every day for all the loving kindness my family is receiving while we go through this very draining time in our lives. I’m also very thankful for every opportunity I find to give of myself to others. Because, as I’ve said before, this amazing opportunity came my way just as I was planning to give, It’s giving me an opportunity to reach people I’d never know or see normally. We never know why anyone is put on our path, so let’s treat them kindly.