30 Fun ideas for your downtime

30 Fun ideas for your downtime | Sedruola Maruska

One of the goals I have for 2020 is to do 20 things I’ve never done before, or that I haven’t done in a long time. That means pushing myself to be creative with downtime.

Do you know the main question I get asked when I tell people they need more downtime?

“What am I going to do?”

As strange as it seems, most of us (me included) are at a loss when it comes to ideas for playing!

We know that playing helps stimulate our creative brains so when we return to work, we’re clearer, more productive and more creative in our solutions. But we either don’t take enough downtime or, when we do, we’re lost.

Yesterday I took an afternoon nap

Taking time off for play is great self-care. Taking a coffee break or a reading break is great, but sometimes our systems needs more. That’s where play comes in!

Here’s a list of fun activities to consider for so you can fully enjoy your downtime making everything else seem easier to manage.

Downtime Activities

Bowling – Go alone, with one friend of make it an impromptu party! No matter how you do it, bowling is always fun.

Glass Blowing – Learn or watch. Glass blowing is an amazing art form that more of us need to experience in some way.

Skydiving – I did this last year! I thought my fear of heights was going to give me a heart attack as soon as I got on the plane. But it didn’t even kick in! It was an incredible experience that I want everyone to try just once.

Adult Indoor playground – Yes, they actually do exist! You may need to search a bit, but finding one and indulging in plain old running around. . . priceless!

Escape Room – If you’re still not familiar with an escape room, please find one and enjoy! If you’re into mysteries or puzzles, this is an ultimate escape for you.

Golfing – Take a day to golf or to learn how to golf. Either way you can’t beat being outside, walking and communing. Go with friends to make it more fun!

Sushi Making Class – Love Sushi? Me too! Thing is, sometimes going out for sushi isn’t an option, so why not take a class and learn to make your own?

30 Fun ideas for your downtime | Sedruola Maruska

Wine Making Class – Yes, you can learn to make your own wine! A quick Google search can help with this.

Roller / Ice Skating – Remember when you were a kid and you used to skate all the time? Well, dust off your skills and go again!

Skiing / Snowboarding – I rediscovered skiing after not being on a slope in 17 years! My fear of heights did kick in, but I kicked it in the face as I challenged myself to do the 2nd level slopes. . . what about you?

Museum Visiting – Art, science, history, whatever type of museum fits your desires, get out and enjoy. It’s not an active option (unless, of course, you count all the walking) but it’s one that will certainly stimulate your creativity and take you away from the norm.

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Aquarium Visiting – Same as visiting a museum but the exhibits are alive.

Amusement Park – They’re not just for kids. They’re for anyone ready and willing to have an adventure!

Make Your Own Beer – If you’re a beer drinker then making your own beer will certainly get your spirit flowing!

Whale Watching – It’s not an active option, but it’s one that will shift your perspective by shifting your surroundings.

Fishing – There are various types of fishing, pick on and go for it! Relax your mind, body and soul.

Paintball – My son and husband went to do this and they loved it! Dress accordingly and enjoy a fun time of getting to your goal.

Stock / Luxury Car Racing/Driving– I need to do this! If you love to drive and you’d like to experience speed or luxury, this is definitely for you.

Go Karting – Indoor or outdoor, this is the younger sibling to stock car racing. Want to rev up your downtime, get in a go kart!

Horseback Riding – Riding in the great outdoors, priceless. Don’t wait to go on vacation to do this. It’s a weekend day trip that will shift your perspective.

Crochet / Knitting Class – I crochet and I have taught crochet. I’m also a knitter. I know how relaxing these activities are for anyone. Trust me, it can be addictive!

Paint & Wine – Going out and having wine while paining is on my list. . . with friends!

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Ceramics – Throw, paint and enjoy. This is an activity that can be for the whole family.

Salsa / Ballroom / Hip Hop Dance Classes – Taking a dance class, or learning via YouTube (like my daughter & I are doing) is fun, great exercise and great for when you want to go dancing!

Whitewater Rafting – This summer, this is on our list! I’m thinking it’s an adventure we’ve got to try!

Rock Wall Climbing – Before you go into the great outdoors to do some climbing, get on an indoor rock wall and try your chops.

Theater – There’s nothing like seeing a great play to take you out of your personal reality and push you to a new world.

Photography Class / Workshop – Taking a photography class will help you take better photos all around. Learning small tips and tricks will certainly encourage you to practice what you’ve learned whenever the opportunity comes along.

Adult Sports League (soccer, baseball, football, martial arts, etc) – Join a sports league in your community!

Archery – It’s not as easy as it looks. Take a class and find out how you can get really good at it!

Gun Range – Learning to use a gun is empowering and fun. Using a gun is not as easy as it looks in the movies so go learn.

Stained Glass Making – An artsy activity that gives beautiful, unique results.

The list could go on, but instead I’m going to challenge you to pick 5 things from this list and put them on your calendar to do this year. You’ll be surprised at how much clearer you’ll feel, how productive you’ll be, and how creative you’ll feel. You’ll even start discovering more things you can do!

Take time off, it’s the best way to reach your goals faster.

Who decides beauty?

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I was having a conversation with my sister that turned to beauty. We were talking about marriage and anniversaries and how long some of our cousins have been married. We’re a huge supportive clan so we’ve all been to almost all our family weddings.

Anyway, my sister lamented that she looked “so bad” at our aunt’s wedding, but she just knew she was beautiful back then. “Why didn’t anyone ever tell me about my mustache or unibrow? How did I feel so beautiful?”

I didn’t think long before saying “we told each other we were beautiful so that’s what we all took into the world. We didn’t see your mustache or unibrow as ‘ugly’ we saw them as you.”

Who decides?

The more I’ve thought about that question the more I wonder, who decides what beauty is? Who decides that a woman with a mustache is less desirable than one without?

Did we lie or mislead her?

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Who decides whether we did or didn’t? I’m not sure. What I’m sure of is we were sincere in our praise of each other. We loved each other unconditionally and saw our beauty beyond the norms.

I was 95 lbs. until I was 34. That made me self-conscious because I didn’t feel I was beautiful at that size. I didn’t wear bikinis or show my arms. No one told me I wasn’t beautiful, but those I was around had curves I wanted.

My family always told me I was beautiful so I never truly doubted it, but there were counter messages that got through anyway.

At some point, someone in advertising decided what the “ideal” look would be. They took parts of ethnic women and created an ideal that has been etched into our minds. If we don’t feel we fit into that ideal, we think something needs to be changed. But does it really?

No changes necessary

No.

Beauty isn’t a product of what you look like on the outside, it’s a compilation of inner and outer beauty. I’ve seen men and women turned off by beautiful people because their beauty was skin deep. Then I’ve seen those men and women turned on by someone who would never fit the “ideal” because they glowed.

Scars To Your Beautiful

The next time you’re looking at yourself and thinking “I need to change. . . ” stop that thought. Think about your spirit. Think about your aura and consider if that’s what needs changing rather than your outer appearance.

Take it from a woman who walks around with and without breasts . . . no one cares how you look, they only care about who you are. Your person is what they respond to.

“Those who care, don’t matter and those who matter, don’t care.”

You are enough. You are beautiful. You decide, remember that!


Are you indulging in premeditated stress?

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You’re driving. A car on the right looks like it’s about to cut you off. . . .

You’re in line at an amusement park. A woman and her child look like they’re about to jump the line to join the rest of their family. . . .

You heard your friend say something rude about you. . . .

I’ll bet you started thinking about what you’d say or do in each of these situations didn’t you?

If you were wondering what “premeditated stress” is, that’s it. Anticipating a situation and deciding in your mind how and why you’ll respond in a certain way. Most of the time, it’s a negative response that creates stress in your body without the actual event happening.

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If you’re honest with yourself and us, you’ll say yes, you’ve indulged in premeditated stress. We all have because it’s a way of protecting ourselves from being taken advantage of, being hurt, abused, or manipulated.

Stress is a killer

But why create unnecessary stress? Stress is worst for your body than eating badly. Why? Because the hormone, Cortisol, it creates in your body was only meant to be in response to “fight or flight”. Once a threat was over, the levels would go back to a normal low ‘healthy’ level.

Stress is like being in a sustained ‘fight or flight’ situation that keeps the cortisol levels high. High cortisol levels are associated with lower immune function and bone density, increased weight gain, blood pressure, cholesterol, heart disease, depression and lower life expectancy.

That means, the conversation you have in your mind about being cut off is actually killing you slowly. Because every time you indulge in that premeditated stress conversation, you’re elevating your cortisol level and keeping your body in a state of readiness to ‘fight or flight’.

Premeditated Stress relief

There are hundreds of reasons to be and stay stressed in our society today. Between family, work, bills, aging, world events, and so much more, it’s no wonder there are increasing cases of mental illness, cancer, depression, heart disease and so on.

So, in an effort to help relieve some of the stress, here are a few ideas to help curb premeditated stress syndrome so we can let go and start enjoying our days more.

Breathe deeply – Whenever you feel something begin to creep up on you and take your joy. Stop, breathe ten deep breaths then move on. I know it sounds ancient, but it really does work to just breathe deeply. It allows your body to know that you’re not in a state of stress and relax. Helping you think clearer.

Exercise – Yeah, I’m like you, this is not my favorite thing either. But, moving your body helps you expend the energy needed to relieve stress. Don’t think of it as trying to lose weight or as a mandatory thing. Think of it as a release from the stress of life. Exercise as often as you need without regard for the benefits beyond just relieving stress. You may find you like it. . .

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Change perspective – When you’re looking at a situation, instead of only seeing your perspective, try to see things from the other side. Doing that will slow down your reaction, help you think of other possibilities for a given situation and calm your stress. This isn’t going to work for every situation (if not try the first to suggestions) but, you’d be surprised how quickly you can calm yourself if you shift your perspective.

Conclusion

Those are suggestions to help you in the immediate, but there are a ton of other things you can do to prevent premeditated stress getting the best of you.

You may be the best at your diet and exercise routine, but if you’re always in a state of stress, you’re doing more damage to your whole system than you realize. So, don’t indulge, release. Your body will thank you.