A woman walks into a boardroom…

A Woman Walks Into a Boardroom | Sedruola Maruska

“A man walks into a boardroom…”

Sounds like a bad joke right? Well, sadly it is. It’s about our perceptions of men in general. It’s about our perception of ourselves, as women, as we relate to men.

What did you envision in your mind’s eye about that man walking into the boardroom? Was he in a suit? What about well-groomed? What about race, was he white? That’s what I saw too. . .

“A woman walks into a boardroom…”

We know how this one ends. She’s not as strong as the man. As a matter of fact, you probably went to a very dark and dismal place with that opening.

What did this woman look like? What punchline were you envisioning? Was she strong? What about race, was she white? What I saw has evolved over the years. A little like the riddle about the doctor and the dying son. . .

A father and his son are in a car accident. The father dies at the scene and the son is rushed to the hospital. At the hospital the surgeon looks at the boy and says “I can’t operate on this boy, he is my son.” How can this be?

It’s a riddle because most people immediately think the doctor was the dead father, but how? Why? Our programming let’s us see men & women in specific roles. When challenged, there’s conflict.

A Woman Walks Into a Boardroom | Sedruola Maruska

Visions of Yourself

How do you see yourself? Do you see yourself walking confidently into that boardroom, or do you shudder at the thought? How you see yourself in your minds eye is key to how the world will see you.

Let’s take a minute and think about that woman who walked into the boardroom. Think about how you pictured her versus how you pictured the man. Then take a moment to really examine why you think you saw what you saw.

If the woman looked like you, why do you think that was? What if she didn’t look like you? What if she looked like the total opposite of what you consider yourself to be?

When I was young, in my fantasies I was always white. You may look at that and say “you wanted to be white?” No, I wanted the romance I saw portrayed in movies, on TV and in magazines. The people who had that romance where white. So that was what I saw in my mind’s eye.

Representation Matters

When I say representation matters I’m not only talking about race, but also gender & orientation. If you’re not seeing what you want to see in your mind’s eye as it relates to any part of your life, you need to ask yourself why and begin changing that.

How can you be a strong businesswoman if you can’t see yourself in that role? If when someone says “a woman walks into a boardroom. . . ” and you see something or someone “other” than how your perceive yourself, there’s work to be done.

Having a vision of yourself starts with being able to see images of who you want to be, around you. It also means looking beyond those images and putting yourself in the place you want to be.

You’re a badass business owner so it’s time for you to see yourself that way. It’s time to stop discounting your abilities and move in your power. When you hear the intro “A woman walks into a boardroom..” you should see yourself and all that makes you strong and unique, giving the most amazing presentation ever. . . or at least you should see that woman as strong.

Changing our Perceptions

As women we need to change our perception of ourselves. We need to start writing a new script that says “I have the ability to be someone’s true love and save them!” “Don’t save me, love and support me in my passions.” “I can do this!”

I want my daughter to see me doing this and know she can too!

Until we change our own perceptions, we’ll be stuck living the images and visions of others. It does my heart good to see that in recent years there have been movies where the woman doesn’t need saving by a man. My daughter is a strong girl, I want her to know she doesn’t need saving by a man, she needs to be loved, respected and supported in whatever she chooses to do. I want to be that representation for her so she’ll look for it in the books, movies & tv shows she’ll eventually watch.

What did you see when you read “a woman walks into a boardroom…” share below what your vision was and how you may want to keep it, or alter it.

Who else wants to stop taking showers?

Who else wants to stop taking showers? | Sedruola Maruska

I used to take a wonderfully long shower every day. Even when we moved to California and my skin started to tear because it was so dry. I bought better lotions and kept showering every day. I never imagined I could stop taking showers back then.

Then I had a baby.

You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? The baby’s small, so you shower only when someone else is around to make sure they’ll be fine. Or when they begin to walk, you want to be sure they don’t kill themselves, while you’re jumping into a 5 minute “shower” so you won’t smell bad at the end of the day.

Less Showering

I got used to less showering and realized my skin was happier. So, I’ve kept a schedule of showering every other day or two (except if I’ve had too many hot flashes, worked out, or it’s summer). It really depends on how yucky I feel or smell.

Who else wants to stop taking showers? | Sedruola Maruska

Anyway, after chemo and surgery, when things started to get back to normal, and I had less down time for self-care, I started to wonder how I could keep a self-care schedule that worked with increased activity.

As I looked around my bathroom I noticed pampering products that were languishing. Languishing because my self-care was always on the back burner. After all there was never enough time. So one day I decided to take more than ten minutes in the shower.

The scrubs and oils finally started looking used. Then, in December, I received the dry brushing brushes that were on my wish list. To say they changed my life would be an understatement, they have transformed the way I shower!

I still don’t take showers everyday (don’t judge me) even though my kids are old enough to leave alone. But when I do take a shower, it becomes a full blown spa experience that I’d like to share with you.

Shower Spa Recipe

Let’s start with the ingredients:

  • Dry Brushing Brushes (for face & body)
  • Shower Gloves
  • Shower Gel
  • Sugar Scrub
  • Coconut Oil (or any natural oil)
  • Shower Process

    Step 1: Use your dry brushing brushes to brush your whole body. My brushes came with a diagram, but if you don’t have one, just be sure to brush toward your heart. Starting from the soles of your feet all the way up to your face. Do at least 10 – 15 brush strokes on each area to make sure you’ve loosened up the dead skin.

    Step 2: Get in the shower and rinse right before using your shower gloves and shower gel to remove any last bits of dead skin left behind from the brushing. Rinse.

    Step 3: Use a gentle sugar scrub on your skin (hopefully one that uses a natural oil) and rub all over your body.

    Step 4: Pat dry then rub the coconut (or your natural oil of choice) all over your body.

    The Result

    After my first spa shower my skin was incredibly soft, smooth and smelled so lovely! I suddenly didn’t feel weird not taking a shower every day because it was now a getaway. A respite from everyday and a great way to:

    • stimulate lymph drainage which builds your immunity
    • unclog your pores
    • clear blemishes faster

    So, not only am I enjoying my shower more, I’m also helping my body stay healthy! Talk about a winning situation. Here’s a quick DIY Sugar Scrub my daughter and I made up a few months back, hope it works for you!

    One last note. . . enjoy the process in anything, that’s where the real fun is! Whether it’s a shower or planning a huge event. . . the fun is in the details (not the devil) enjoy it all.

    What’s your favorite thing to do in the shower? Whatever it is, I’m here for it so do tell.

What if we loved ourselves more?

What if we loved ourselves more? | Sedruola Maruska

What if we devoted this year to loving ourselves more?

That’s the question I posted on my Instagram to kick off 2019. . . what if? What do you think would happen?

What if we:

  • said “I love you” when we looked at ourselves in the mirror
  • had encouraging self-talk going on in our minds
  • didn’t worry about what others think, just how we feel
  • took time out each day to do something special for ourselves
  • treated ourselves like we want to be treated by others
  • complimented ourselves on our beautiful bodies
  • loved our hair
  • loved our skin
  • embraced our scars
  • fed ourselves nourishing foods
  • danced
  • laughed
  • cried
  • Simply allowed ourselves to be

The Proposition

Let’s make it our mission this year to love ourselves more. I’m not always good at being good to myself. Loving myself. But this year I’m not only going to help myself, I want to help you too.

From this blog, my Instagram, Facebook & YouTube accounts my mission is to become more of what we want in 2019.

So think about it. . . what if we devoted this year to loving ourselves more. . . what do you come up with as the result?

Happy 2019, let’s make it our best year ever!