It’s back to school time which means everyone’s looking for fashion deals! Well, look no further because I’ve compiled a list of deals from fun retailers across the web.
When I was going to school it was exciting to grab new clothes and imagine how cute I’d be for class. Although I’m no longer in school, I get excited when the weather begins to turn because I love Fall! I love the layering and wrapping of sweaters and drinking hot cocoa. Beyond that, I love fashion deals!
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I don’t have an endless budget for clothing and I imagine you don’t either. When I find a deal that’s awesome I love to take advantage of it, especially since I’m not an “all the time” shopper. That’s why I thought I’d bring the deals to you.
My quick disclaimer is this: Yes, some links are affiliate links, but not all. I’m sharing what I think would most benefit you. I’ll let you know which retailers I’ve actually had experience with.
The first retailer is JustFab! I LOVE them because they make it so easy to buy super cute stuff almost every month at a great price. I HATE them for the very same reason! When you join their VIP program you’ll pay $39 a month into your account. If you don’t use the money, it stays in your account. When you’re ready, you can use the money in your account to purchase anything on their site. If it isn’t in the budget for you to pay the $39, you can skip a month by going to your personal style area.
It’s like having a personal shopper!
Well, they’re currently doing a $10 promotion (which is how I got a pair of super cute boots last year) for your first style. Just click here, on any link or the image below to get started.
I’m going to send you down the fashion discount rabbit hole that is Azbro! When you get there you’ll find so many amazing dresses at wonderful prices, you may not find your way back to say thanks. So, let me just say “you’re welcome” now! Azbro is a sister store to Oasap (we’ll talk about them later) so I have a bit of experience with their items. I was very pleased with everything I purchased (see this post & this post) from clothing to jewelry.
All over their site are back to school, Labor Day and Fall discounts so let me just list a few to make it easier for you:
Last year when I was looking for the right bikini I stumbled across ModCloth. Not only did I find my bikini, but I fell in love with their slightly retro look and feel. I also fell in love with the fact that they have clothing for all sizes. Super cute clothing for all sizes to be exact! So, I had to share a few of their current deals with you. Please be warned, some are JUST FOR THIS WEEKEND so be sure to grab them while you can (8/26/17 – 8/28/17).
As I mentioned above, Oasap is a sister company to Azbro but with a slightly different, more adult, feel. When I browse Oasap I’m always drooling and making plans to pick up a dress or top or earrings for anything that’s coming up. Their styles are fun, classic and affordable. It also helps that they always have tons of sales going on at any given time!
As I’m looking for a few new pieces for Fall, this will definitely be one of my stops. Here are a few deals you’ll find irresistible:
This is fun, I may need to do it every season, what do you think? Let me know in the comments below if getting exclusive fashion deals on a quarterly basis is something you could get used to, I know I can!
Tolerance, really? This post holds a bit of harsh language. . . You’ve been warned. 🙂
I’m a woman of Haitian decent. Actually, a first generation Haitian-American. In Creole the word tolerance is not ever spoken in nice tones. It’s usually delivered with disdain and harshness. Which is why it always baffles me when organizations and people here in America speak of “tolerance” as a thing to teach.
Tolerance, for me, is not what I think to teach my children when it comes to other people.
Thinking I might be misunderstanding the word I decided to look up tolerance in the Merriam-Webster dictionary online. I teach my son (and soon my daughter) to look up words, so that was my default. I wanted to make sure I wasn’t just tainted by the connotation ‘tolerance’ held in Creole vs. English.
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Imagine my shock when I read the first definition listed:
“capacity to endure pain or hardship”
I was right! My education did not fail me (in that regard) and when put in context in Creole, that’s exactly what it means. It’s a feeling of being able or unable to ENDURE pain or hardship presented . . .
“sympathy or indulgence for beliefs or practices differing from or conflicting with one’s own”
Sympathy? Indulgence? Still not things that invoke hearts or rainbows . . . Let’s continue
“the act of allowing something.”
Wait, what? So basically “I will allow you to be black” or “I will allow you to be Jewish” or “I will allow you to be gay”? The final set of definitions is what threw me over the top…
“the capacity of the body to endure or become less responsive to a substance (such as a drug) or a physiological insult especially with repeated use or exposuredeveloped a tolerance to painkillers; also: the immunological state marked by unresponsiveness to a specific antigen (2) :relative capacity of an organism to grow or thrive when subjected to an unfavorable environmental factor”
Why the Fuck (excuse me while I put on my elitist cap) would I want to teach my children to look at people as “things to be endured” or “hardships to indulge”? We’re teaching “tolerance”?
I am, they are, we are all human beings, no one wants to simply be “tolerated”! I don’t want you in my space looking at me as something to “endure”! If you find my mere presence offensive then get the fuck out of my space. Do not put us in a position where you’re “enduring” a “sustained” trauma and I’m thinking we’re communicating.
Still not fully convinced? Well, neither was I, although I was getting there quickly, so I looked up words that may be similar in meaning, you know synonyms:
Correct me if I’m wrong but there’s a pattern here. All these words imply that those who are “tolerant” are in a state of great discomfort and in a position to be easily misled.
Teaching people to “tolerate” other people needs to be the teaching of last resort, not the platform! Because, at the very least, we should be tolerant. Tolerance is not the first thing to teach. . . I do not want to simply be tolerated.
Have you ever been on a diet where you had to endure eating in a way that made you feel deprived? Did you stick with that diet or did you rebel and look for something new? That’s what I thought.
When forced to stay in a state of discomfort, say like chronic pain, people don’t learn what they need to grow, they simply learn to endure. That is tolerance. How can I, in good conscience, teach my children to endure other people? That will in turn teach them they are powerless and must endure the unfavorable situation when someone else is simply enduring their presence. I do not stay in the presence of those I think are merely enduring my presence.
It seems to me, this tolerance thing is blowing up in our faces right now. Alt-right, white supremacists are running rampant in our streets when for years many allowed themselves to think they were a thing of the past. What they were doing was “tolerating” us (blacks, Jews, gays, other). They’ve been uncomfortable for too long. In that discomfort they were made “submissive”, “passive” and are now fighting for a state of comfort.
Groups of people that have been taught to “tolerate” and others that have been “tolerated”, all living in a sustained state of discomfort are pushing back. No human wants or should stay in a state of sustained discomfort.
No, I’m not going to teach my children to tolerate people. Nor am I going to teach them to endure being tolerated. I’m teaching my children to be curious and open to other ways of life. I’m teaching them the richness of experiencing and indulging in theirs and other cultures, immersing themselves in the beauty that is diversity. I’m teaching them to love.
When we’re open we gain insight and information about people and situations we don’t understand. Staying open means having sincere conversations and asking questions that bring information that’s otherwise a mystery. My children are learning that if they don’t like someone, they don’t have to be tolerant of that person. They walk away. They’re also learning that liking someone is never based on the way a person looks, worships or loves. Liking someone is based on who they are. There are people of all races, creeds, religions etc. who are assholes. We don’t have to tolerate that shit.
In turn, I’m not here to simply be tolerated.
Tolerance is the teaching of last resort.
Tolerance is the act of last resort.
So, if you haven’t talked to me, been open to me and learned anything about me because of the color of my skin, I DO expect you to tolerate me. Because I’m here, I’m not going anywhere and it’s your choice to stay in your ignorant state of stress.
What’s blowing up right now is a whole lot of tolerance gone awry. We take the teaching of last resort, make it the best option and now people are done tolerating. We’re not teaching sensitivity to culture, because we’re afraid to teach culture. We’re not teaching an understanding of people, because we’re afraid to teach history properly. Kids aren’t learning love, they’re learning to “get along” and to “tolerate”.
Teaching anyone to simply tolerate things that can never change will never end well.
The one antonym:
The near antonyms, those words that are close to the opposite of tolerance:
When tolerance is no longer sustainable you’ll get the opposite.
Teach history, culture, inclusion, sensitivity and love. Then, if by some horrible twist, those things don’t work, teach tolerance. But please, take it from someone who is of a “tolerated” class, don’t teach tolerance first. If tolerance is the only lesson that sticks, then impatience is not too far behind
Fashion mistakes are common, we all make them. Thing is, they’re not mistakes because we’re not “age appropriate” or “wearing the latest fad.” The reason they’re mistakes is because they are particular to each of us.
I’m huge on wearing what makes you feel and look good. You don’t have to justify your unique style to anyone. However, there are still some fashion mistakes we make when we think it’s just our “style”
The biggest fashion mistakes I see are when we don’t dress our body shape. When we dress for someone else’s body and not the one we live in. Not only is it obvious, it can give the wrong message.
There are several different body shapes that we as women can have. According to Shop Your Shape there are 8 major types (click to view). We put so much emphasis on weight that we fail to see that dressing our shape is what’s most important.
Knowing accepting and embracing your body shape is the first step in not making the fashion mistakes so many women commonly make.
This fashion mistake always baffles me. Why wear clothes that are too small? Although I can come up with a few reasons, they all seem like excuses. Wearing something that doesn’t fit appropriately can keep you in a state of constant “dieting” which isn’t good for the soul or psyche. If it’s too small don’t wear it or buy it.
Thing is, wearing clothes that are too small may cause unnecessary discomfort. Not to mention, they can also be damaging to your circulation (depending on how small they are) and cause skin chaffing. Whatever your reason to wearing clothes that are too small, reconsider. Instead, try putting something on that’s just right to see how much better it feels.
Your Clothes are Too Big
When my husband and I got married, he had tons of shirts and sweaters in his closet that were sized “large”. My husband is 6’3 so it was understandable that most of his years he, and others, assumed he was a large. Then we went shopping and I asked him to try on a medium. I’ve never bought my husband a large from that day forward.
Wearing clothes that are too big makes it difficult to feel good. Yes, you may think you’re comfortable, but chances are that’s the story you’ve told yourself. Even our most comfy clothes (you know your lounging pants) make us feel better if they’re the right size.
I’m a woman. I know all about the various changes our bodies go through each month. I know there are times when we just feel “fat” and our clothes reinforce that feeling. What I’ve found is that if I wear clothes that fit and aren’t too big around those times, I feel better. You just may find you do too.
I’ve heard the phrase “less is more” so often it seems cliche. Thing is, nowhere is that phrase more relevant that when it comes to fashion mistakes. I’m not talking about wearing less clothes (although some situations may call for that) I’m talking about over-accessorizing.
Accessories are the finishing touch on an outfit well put together, but what if it’s too much. You’ve added the statement necklace, but then put on the statement earrings (so those two things begin to fight for attention). After that, on go the twelve rings and bracelets. I think you see where I’m going.
The finishing touch, should be the thing on your outfit that gives an extra pop, not overpower your outfit. Paring down on accessories means letting your natural beauty, fashion taste and confidence show. Yes, less, in this case, is truly more.
Outdated / Old Clothes
Last but not least, work on rotating clothes out of circulation on a regular basis. I’m all for comfy, familiar clothes, but they’re usually the ones that stay home all the time.
Creating a wardrobe that works means having timeless pieces mixed in with trendy pieces for going out. Keeping older pieces at home means looking fresh as much as possible. My system for rotating my clothes is to take something out every time I buy something. That way I have no clutter, breathing room and my clothes stay fairly up-to-date. That’s not to say I don’t have 10 – 15 year old pieces, but those were either bought to last, or never go outside.
Fashion mistakes are universal. We all make them. The trick is to learn and grow beyond them. Wearing clothing that fits may be all that’s needed to make a complete difference.
I’ve laid out these five fashion mistakes here for you, did they trigger some thoughts of your own? Are there fashion mistakes you see often that you think can easily be altered? Share your thoughts in the comments. We’d love to get extra tips!